The Good the Bad and the Ugly

How do we see the difference in the good and the bad when from out here it all looks exactly the same? In relationships of all sorts across the world at this very moments hearts are breaking. Families are fighting, and friends are vowing to never talk again. It's amazing you see we trust as human beings its in our nature. We allow past experiences with people to tell us what we need to know about them. If last week your sister was your best friend and this week she is siding your worst enemy you might use the phrase "I never saw this coming". You might be dooped into believing what ever you wanted to believe its in your nature. Why wouldn't you believe someone has your best interest at heart unless they had already shown you otherwise. The truth is in the beginning or even if you have known someone for your whole life you never really know them you only know what they allow you to see. Ive been a bit of a sceptic my whole life, Ive been called jaded, bitter and evil on occasions for the simple fact that most of the time I call bull*****! I have a hard time believing in the good of people but like all of you I too am human. You eventually will fall into the trap of believing every little word that comes out of someones mouth, and the funny thing is you will do it ALLOT in your lifetime fall for someones B.S. and it will hurt because its a long way down from perfection. Now I Know what you are thinking "There has to be people out there that care enough to handle you with care, there has to be good people in the world." Yes that is true there are good people in the world there are those whose soul purpose in life is to be deserving of your love and trust. How in the world do you tell those two types apart they look exactly the same?
Now its not exactly a harmonious or god like to judge and I am not trying to be one of those people (I hate people that judge). The truth is you can't judge you have to take the good with the bad because most likely these people on either side of that good / evil fence are not a cookie cutter image of both. People are a mixture of things including good and evil. They will hurt you and make you laugh, or create anger and bring the only smile of the day and this can all happen in a matter of an hour!!!! It can be confusing. Who do you choose to keep or give away? What feelings do you hang on to, the hurt or the happy? How ow do you move on with or without them? and my particularly favorite question When do you make such definite decisions? I cant answer that for anyone. I can only tell you that its up to you which leaves you no more or less confused then I.
You have a decision what kind of people you want to surround you in this life. Its up to you what you believe you deserve what you can handle and most important what you can forgive. Forgiveness is so important because if you can not learn to forgive you are not only punishing someone else. You are punishing yourself by being angry and harboring nasty thoughts and negative energy. You will not allow yourself to see the beauty in things as you once did before. You create a sort of fuzzy picture of the world disillusioned with mistrust, and sadness. Like a scenic painting spoiled by black boxes you will no longer see anything in its entirety or the "big picture".
when you look at the world through open eyes with hope and love and care you except those things into your heart. Its like falling in love for the first time and seeing that everything really is OK. The hard part is learning to accept what you cannot change. Forgive do not forget and keep only what you need. There are wolves that walk amongst us we all have our own inner demons we face at some point. You have to remember those that love you, look exactly like those who will hurt you, abuse you, and deceive you. You just wont know until it happens. You have to be open to get hurt to find what you want out of life, it full of disappointment. I am a firm believer though that the world is also full of beauty, and joy. In the end you have to accept both find a way to deal with it in your heart, learn and grow. It's a long fall from perfection but its a hell of a view on the way down.